Separation can feel different now
Object permanence is changing how distance feels
By The Millie's Team · Parenting Notes
Around week forty-three, separations may feel bigger to your baby. Knowing that you still exist when you are out of sight is a new and complicated idea.
What is happening
Object permanence is developing. Your baby now understands that you are still somewhere, even when they cannot see you. That can be reassuring once it is fully formed, but during the in-between stage it can feel unsettling.
Is this normal
Yes. A short period of stronger separation feelings around this age is very common. It is a sign of healthy attachment and growing understanding, not a step backwards.
What you may notice
- More upset at goodbyes
- Reaching to be carried more often
- Wanting to be near you in new places
- Settling quickly when you return
What helps right now
- Saying goodbye warmly rather than sneaking away
- Keeping reunions calm and reliable
- Playing simple hide-and-seek games
- Letting familiar carers take over gently
What to expect next
Over the coming weeks, your baby will keep building trust that you always come back. Separation feelings usually ease as that trust deepens, even when the world keeps getting bigger.